This weblog chronicled the adoption journey to our Ethiopian daughter, and now our lives with 5 amazing children
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
My Old Song To Liam: "Come Talk To Me"
I posted this Peter Gabriel music video because it was my song to Liam for so many years. He had some language at 1 year old, but then lost it. It never returned, so for about three difficult years I sung this song to him (I memorized every word). Many times it was sung while I danced joyfully with him, but some times it was in desperation and tears until I finally made peace with the reality that he would be communicating in very different ways. The silence was painful primarily because I never knew what he was thinking or needing, and never heard the words "I love you." Hearing the song now helps me see how far our whole family has come on the journey toward acceptance and gratitude. He tells me that he loves me every day in very special ways.
Lyrics:
The wretched desert takes its form, the jackal proud and tight In search of you, I feel my way, though the slowest heaving night Whatever fear invents, I swear it make no sense I reach through the border fence Come down, come talk to me
In the swirling, curling storm of desire unuttered words hold fast With reptile tongue, the lightning lashes towers built to last Darkness creeps in like a thief and offers no relief Why are you shaking like a leaf Come on, come talk to me
Ah please talk to me Wont you please talk to me We can unlock this misery Come on, come talk to me
{chorus 1:} I did not come to steal This all is so unreal Cant you show me how you feel now Come on, come talk to me Come talk to me [x2]
The earthly power sucks shadowed milk from sleepy tears undone From nippled skin as smooth as silk the bugles blown as one You lie there with your eyes half closed like theres no-one there at all Theres a tension pulling on your face Come on, come talk to me
Wont you please talk to me If youd just talk to me Unblock this misery If youd only talk to me
{chorus 2:} Dont you ever change your mind Now your futures so defined And you act so deaf and blind [and you act so deaf so blind] Come on, come talk to me Come talk to me [x2]
I can imagine the moment Breaking out through the silence All the things that we both might say And the heart it will not be denied til were both on the same damn side All the barriers blown away
I said please talk to me Wont you please come talk to me Just like it used to be Come on, come talk to me I did not come to steal This all is so unreal Can you show me how you feel now Come on, come talk to me Come talk to me [x2]
This blog documents our lives, hopefully in a way that is open, honest and helpful to other families. Those are the ones that have helped me most, while realizing we all have a lot of the same experiences, just wrapped differently. We'll post the challenges and victories starting with the road to our fifth child, Amelie, in Ethiopia. Christine is a proud stay at home mama, artist, and yogini. While Daniel is a self-employed attorney who loves writing, meditation, collard greens and goofy adventures. As parents we do our best to be calm, peaceful, mature and competent adults. Some days we succeed at this, while most we simply fall flat on our faces; we never stop trying. We hope to raise spiritually aware children who have a deep compassion for people and a sense of connectedness with the rest of the world.
We have five children, two are homegrown: Sorin (17) and Liam (14) both of whom have special needs and are quite inspiring to us. Our three youngest are adopted from Guatemala, India and Ethiopia: Sky Bear (7) and Andrew Prasad (9), and little Amelie Lin Sosena (8 months) will complete our family when she comes home this year. We will have children from 3 major continents. It was never planned that way, but we sure are tickled by it and proud of the diversity!
You can peruse our old blog entries from 2006-February 2009 here.
Early October 2008 We made the exciting decision to adopt an infant/toddler girl Late October 2008 Decided on Ethiopia and applied with Children's Hope International Adoption Agency November 4, 2008 Received news we were approved for a girl, age 0-3 from Ethiopia November-December 2008 gathered Homestudy documents, visited with social worker, had to redo KBI fingerprinting for Sorin. January 28, 2009 Homestudy completed. January 29, 2009 Submitted I-600A to USCIS. Switched to Adoption Avenues Agency for placement, January 30 Redo of State Police clearance letters to obtain 'notarized' clearances for the new agency February 2009 Compiling dossier documents. Our goal is to have the dossier authenticated and ready by mid-late February 2009. February 3, 2009 Received letter from USCIS asking us in any Wednesday for fingerprinting. February 6, 2009 Submitting official Contract with Adoption Avenues. Acquired all birth certificates needed for the dossier. February 13, 2009 Received 'notarized' copies of State Police Clearance letters. February 18, 2009 Completed fingerprints at USCIS. February 24, 2009 Received USCIS I-171H approval letter March 5, 2009 Completed State authentication for Dossier, and mailed to adoption agency. March 11, 2009 Dossier sent to Washington DC for authentication March 19, 2009 Dossier arrived in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia May 10, 2009 MOTHER'S DAY we received Amelie's Referral! May 11, 2009 Officially Accepted Referral June 24, 2009 Received our Court Date of July 14! July 14, 2009 Reassigned new Court date of July 30th due to MOWA closure July 30th, 2009 We passed Court!!! August 3, 2009- Got news that we have an Embassy appointment for September 8th! September 3, 2009 Leaving for Addis Ababa September 5, 2009 We'll hold, kiss, hug and tickle Amelie Lin Sosena for the very first time!!! September 12, 2009 Amelie's Homecoming!!!
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